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The problem of pain can only be truly and wholly solved in the individual heart, through conversion to and conversation with our Saviour. A community, regardless of how healthy and God-honoring, will only ever be a supplementary tool that the individual would be wise to use in addressing the problem of pain.

In short, it's between you and God. No one else can do it for you.

It's you.

And God.

But don't forget the support, encouragement and prayer that your brothers and sisters in Christ are offering you. :)